In my last article regarding goal setting, I outlined some keys for accountability. This is an important element of your success for many reasons, answering to someone else is an area that is comfortable for many. Another reason that you may need to have someone push or monitor you is because of your fear of success.
You may wonder who on earth could be afraid of being successful. Many more that you can imagine. In my workshops, we find that most, who thought they were not afraid, really were. They soon find out that procrastination has become their best friend because of fear.
Part of your healing process for success means that you will have to move past your doubts about yourself. When you have been put in a position to stop believing in yourself, fear sets in and you find yourself living within your comfort zone. Moving out of that zone or box in the only way to real success. Fear of failure has been put in many of us since we were in our childhood. This too must be a daily challenge that you give yourself to succeed.
While preparing your daily goal list, it is very important to include things that you never accomplished and were hesitant to do because of your fears. It is much easier to sit in a bad or stagnant place rather than to move ahead. In a place of complacency, you will find that there will be many others there to root you on. These are usually people who not only are satisfied because you joined them, but they are extremely happy to keep you there. So your feelings of non-support are valid. You will talk together about your goals and dreams. Your relationship is guaranteed to change after you leave the nest of do nothing to having as little as one goal achieved. Another benefit of the comfort zone is that, in there, you can collect words of pity that are comforting when fear is around. When you succeed, not only do you forfeit those comforting words, but you have to step up to the plate as one that is doing something good and accomplishing his/her goals. That puts you on “front – street”. People will recognize that you are doing something with your life and start to pay attention to you in a different manner. The very thought makes people sick to their stomachs! Never the less, you have to suck it up and keep moving if you ever want to see positive success in your life.
What dreams of success do you have that are drowned out by fear? While setting my goals for my business this year, my accomplishments were made by facing what scared me the most. Moving in my fear made me a stronger person first in my personal life then to others who are now looking to me for solutions. I am no longer afraid of success; I am afraid of not being successful.
Karen L. Donald is truly a woman of personal victory. As an established entrepreneur, Karen founded Donald and Associates, which is rapidly becoming one of the most creative marketing and image firms in the United States. As a trainer, International speaker and 20 years of Multimedia experience, she has formed a team of specialist across the globe.
She has been most demanded as an Inner Image Coach for sales teams and personal development, which focuses on workshops for the total man. She herself is a survivor of different forms of abuse, which is her message and medicine for empowerment and emotional healing.
When asked of her success, she says that being transparent in all areas of her life is used to help others. Her words of encouragement to all are simple but powerful. “Everyday you live is a second chance at life!”