Although things happen to us that we may have had no control over, we do have the power to either accept the change in our lives or work towards making a bad situation better. Sometimes trying to change a bad situation may mean leaving it.
Did we marry someone who later became an alcoholic? We can either accept that they are alcoholics; we can help them to become non-alcoholics or, if things become too difficult to accept, we can leave the situation because it is not good for our own lives and those of our families.
Are we being physically, verbally or emotionally abused within our relationships? Most would never accept this treatment under any circumstances but there are some that do. Attempting to change it may work if the abuser is willing to take counseling or if he/she eventually sees himself or herself as an abuser. However, in most cases it may be necessary to change your life by leaving; if things cannot be changed it is necessary to think of what is best for yourself and others in the family. This is especially true when children are involved.
Do we work in an environment that does not respect or appreciate its employees? Are we made to work overtime without pay? Are we not given employee’s standard lunch and coffee breaks? Are we expected to work in unsafe environments? We can accept bad employer treatment for fear of losing our jobs; but is that acceptable? Or we can approach our bosses in an attempt to make changes to enhance working conditions for ourselves and our colleagues. But if nothing works and we cannot accept the situation, it will be necessary for us to change what we can’t accept and look elsewhere for another job.
These are only a few examples. The choice is always ours whether to accept a situation, attempt to change it or to not accept it and decide to leave a difficult situation. When we truly realize that we have these choices, we will be able to be stronger in our decision making. We no longer need to be at another’s mercy. We are our own masters and each and every one of us deserves to live with respect.
Sylvia Behnish has published her first non-fiction book entitled “Roller Coaster Ride With Brain Injury (For Loved Ones)” which tells the story of the first year following her partner’s brain injury. Her first fiction book entitled “His Sins”, a three generation family saga, will be out late Fall. She has also had numerous articles published in newspapers and magazines in both Canada and the United States.