Have you ever heard they saying “people who live in glass houses, should not throw stones?” Most people have and its meaning is pretty clear. If you are vulnerable don’t be so quick to point out issues of others.
Jesus said it even better, “How can you say to your brother, let me take the speck out of your eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”
Don’t Criticize! Are you wondering how to make friends? Do you desire to be honored and cared about? Take my advice and don’t criticize others. When you sow those bad seeds you do nothing but hurt others and get yourself dirty in the process. No positives can come of it other than the small amount of gross pleasure you get at the moment. Fight the urge, stand above the norm.
Don’t condemn! We really have no idea what people are capable of. When you think back on history it is usually the people with the most awful problems that became the greatest successes. I think this is because they were forced out of the normal rut that most people fall into. When you lay a guilt upon someone else you stand the chance of looking like an idiot if they do better. If they don’t all you can do is say “I told you so” and doesn’t everyone just love to hear that?
Don’t complain! This is the best one of all so I saved it for the end in hopes that you would remember it. Are you considering how to get along with others, even people you don’t care for? No matter how terrible things are, no matter how much your life seems to be killing you, keep a good attitude about it and don’t complain. When was the last time you walked away from a conversation and said, “wow those were some really uplifting complaints she had, I am so glad we talked.” The only person that benefits from a complaint is the one who is complaining.
That is the concern with all three of the above listed activities. They only benefit the person giving them. If you want to be an effective communicator and have lots of people love and respect you, take the time to think about others. Humans are designed to think only for themselves. Break that cycle, if you do you will see amazing things happen in your life.
The Number one principle to destroying relationship stress is to be more concerned about your partner. If you follow these steps you will never again ask yourself “How do I make friends?”
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