I have never been hunting before but I’ve noticed hunters always know what they are hunting before they begin. Can you imagine anything sillier than traipsing around in some woods somewhere, hunting for something without knowing what it is? If I told you we were going hunting for Whatchadoodles tomorrow, wouldn’t you at least want to know what one looked like first?
Success is the same way. You have to know what you are shooting for. How will you know whether you have hit it unless you know what it is?
The first step in getting what you want in life is identifying what you want. One of the biggest questions you will ever ask yourself is, “What do I want?” Most people never bother asking themselves this question, much less answering it.
I have asked thousands of people what they want but I don’t think I’ve ever had one person answer the question correctly. Their replies never answer the question I asked. They always seem to be answering another question such as, “What would you settle for?” or “What’s the best you think you’ll ever be likely to get?”
I almost always hear answers like, “Well, I’d like to pay off the credit cards,” or “I’d like to be able to retire” or “I wish my spouse and I got along better.”
There is nothing wrong with those answers but I just have wonder if those are the types of things those people dreamed about when they were young. “I hope to grow up one day and be able to get out of debt.” Or how about, “When I grow up, I want to marry someone that I can fight less with.” While these are certainly worthwhile goals, they definitely don’t sound very exciting, do they?
I believe the reason people aren’t able to tell me what they want is that before the question ever reaches their brains, it has to pass through several of their emotional filters first.
It has to pass through the “you’re not good enough” filter or the “you tried that before and it didn’t work” filter. They have become trained fleas.
Have you heard about trained fleas? I am told that if you take a group of fleas, put them in a jar and seal the lid, you will hear the sound of them jumping up and hitting the lid for hours. After a while though, they learn they cannot escape, so they still jump, but just not high enough to hit the lid. I hear that you can actually remove the lid and they won’t escape because they learned it is impossible.
Have you come to believe that what you want is an impossibility? Do you avoid exploring what you want out of life because you fear being disappointed?
I encourage you to embark upon a quest of discovering what you truly desire. Determining your desire isn’t making a wish list nor is it an exercise in fantasy. It is an exploration of what is important to you and what you desire your life to be.
After all, living your life without asking yourself what you want is just shooting in the dark.
© 2009 Charles Marshall. Charles Marshall is a motivational speaker, motivational author and president of M Power Resources, LLC. Visit his Web site at http://www.charlesmarshall.net or contact him via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Charles Marshall is the founder and president of M Power Resources, a company dedicated to providing growth resources for business and individuals. He has over 17 years of full-time experience as a motivational speaker and comedian and is recognized amongst meeting planners as one of the best motivational humorous speakers for any corporate event.
Charles Marshall is the author of the modern day motivational classic Shattering the Glass Slipper, whose central message is that success is available for all who harness, develop,
and apply their Seven Powers. He has also produced two full-length comedy videos, I’m Just Sayin’ (Crown Video 2008) and Fully Animated (1998).