Wisdom comes from a variety of sources. It can come from experience, but it doesn’t have to. Someone has said that an expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field. However, as we all know, the smart thing is to learn from OTHERS’ mistakes so we don’t have to make those mistakes personally.
Or, if you’re like me, you get to make mistakes is LOTS of fields, so you neither get to claim the title expert, nor learn things the easy way. Ah, the joy (and stubbornness) of youth! Whether or not you’ve made a lot of mistakes in your youth, with time, you get the luxury of reflecting on not only your own mistakes, but those you’ve seen made by those around you.
And instead of sitting in judgment, one can simply ask oneself if the outcome of the actions someone took led them to their intended conclusion. Sometimes the actions do and sometimes they do not. I have noted I learn a lot from people who show me how I DON’T want to be!
Wisdom is a thing of true value – we cannot put a price on it, and yet it is highly coveted.
As we age, I believe that we become more reflective of who we are, and, interestingly, even as we become more aware of our own shortcomings, we also become more gentle with ourselves, more forgiving and more accepting. And hopefully, as we learn to accept ourselves, we likewise learn to accept others.
So, be proud of your age, your wisdom, the lessons you’ve learned (either personally or through watching others), and share the gifts you’ve been given with others! But only if your wisdom is requested and received willingly. I don’t know about you, but I have found that I cannot “force” someone to learn from my mistakes, even if I’m trying to prevent them pain and heartache.
Who around you has imparted to you her wisdom, and which lessons have you had to learn yourself? Have you become more self-aware, more gentle and tender with yourself as you age, or are you more impatient and frustrated with your place in the world? How are you proud of how far you’ve come (regardless of age)?
I’ll admit I like to be guessed at a younger age than I am (vanity, I guess!), but I sure wouldn’t give up the lessons I’ve learned. For those, I am SO grateful.
Aurelia Flores wants to offer a learning opportunity to other women who might find themselves in similar shoes. She strongly believes women can learn from other women, no matter where they are in their career or life path.
Aurelia went from single teenage mother in an abusive relationship to Stanford Law School grad and Senior Counsel for a Fortune 500 company and has overcome obstacles and founded Powerful Latinas to get Latina women to learn and share with one another. Powerful-Latinas mission is “helping powerful Latina women stay grounded in their power!” To find out more, go to www.PowerfulLatinas.com.